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the question is how do you differentiate
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the utility of behavioral / psycho
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therapeutic treatments for conditions
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like depression versus medical
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treatments okay so the first thing I
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would say is don’t underestimate the
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utility of medical interventions
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depression is a cat catastrophe it
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carries with it a very high suicide rate
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and it also levels people out and it’s
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really hard on their families and so and
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it and it’s physiologically
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extraordinarily damaging and so if
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you’re in a depressive state and it’s
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severe you can try an antidepressant
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you’ll know in a month if it works if it
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works well maybe it’ll help you get your
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life together like we could say well
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maybe you’re depressed because your life
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isn’t very well together could be
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sometimes people are depressed their
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life is just it isn’t fine because no
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one’s life is fine everyone’s life is a
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tragedy but sometimes people have their
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lives in order as much as you could
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expect anyone to have they have friends
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they have an intimate relationship they
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have a career that they like you know
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they’re they’re qualified industrious
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people working hard on what they’re
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doing and and and really playing a
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minimum number of games with themselves
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and they’re terribly depressed
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antidepressant man that’s sometimes that
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will just fix it and so hooray like your
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biological entity if there’s something
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out there that can help you strengthen
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yourself so that you can prevail great
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and you know people you hear everyone
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takes antidepressants you know
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everyone’s taking them just like no one
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takes those bloody things without
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serious consideration half the time I
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spend with my clients who are depressed
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is often the two years long attempt to
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get them to tentatively try an
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antidepressant because they’re so guilty
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that they’re relying on an external
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crutch to sort out their lives that they
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can’t even tolerate it but you know I
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say well look man what if you had
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diabetes you’re not gonna take your
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insulin it’s like you got stressed you
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blew out at your weakest point that’s
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what happens when you get stressed if
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there’s something out there that might
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help you it’s like try it
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for God’s sake you’ll know in a month
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and you just stop
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that doesn’t work now having said that
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you want to do a multi-dimensional
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analysis it’s like well do you have any
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friends do you have an intimate
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relationship or are you pursuing one do
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you have a reasonable career are you as
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educated as you are intelligent do you
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have something useful to do with your
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time outside of work do you have a drug
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or alcohol problem
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are there other behavioral issues like
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sleep dysregulation and lack of eating
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that are contributing to the pathology
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you want to differentiate all of that
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and wherever you can make a behavioral
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intervention so much the better
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but sometimes — you’re dealing with
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people whose lives are so wrecked that
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they don’t even know where to start
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they’re different than the ones who have
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everything in order say and you say well
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try this man maybe you won’t cut your
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throat in the next month because if
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you’re dead it’s going to be hard to
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work with you and so so medical
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interventions anything if you’re sick
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you do what it’s necessary to get better
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and you leave your pride behind if you
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if you have to and that that says
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nothing about the utility of the
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behavioral interventions you want to hit
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the problem with everything you have at
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your disposal but some antidepressants
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especially especially for people whose
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lives are together and who are depressed
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antidepressants can be absolutely
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miraculous so you know when you hear
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about the clinical evidence in their
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favor being iffy and that’s partly
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because the diagnosis of depression
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isn’t very well formulated there’s it’s
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very different to have a terrible life
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than to be depressed and antidepressants
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can only help you so much if you have a
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terrible life so yeah
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you want to stay inside this little map
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because it’s working you want to get
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from point A to point eight point B and
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this is good this indicates that you are
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moving forward that’s the first thing it
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indicates and the second thing it
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indicates which is even more important
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and you’ll never hear this from
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behavioral psychologists is that your
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map is correct so every time you move a
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little bit forward and something that
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you want happens it says oh the game I’m
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playing is the right game and so not
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only does the reward indicate progress
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it indicates that the frame within which
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progress is being calculated is the
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right frame and that’s good because it’s
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the frame that makes things irrelevant
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and you want them to stay irrelevant so
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if you don’t move forward and you start
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to question the frame that’s way worse
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than merely not moving forward
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you get a bad examine what do you think
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what the hell am i doing in university
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anyways it’s like probably that’s not
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the first place you should go with that
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piece of information and you think well
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why why is that worse well as far as I
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can tell your map of you as University
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student is a comprehensive
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representation it tells you what you
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should do every day it kind of tells you
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where you’re going in the future and if
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something emerges as an anomaly you get
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worse grade than you expected and you
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blow that whole map it’s like okay what
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have you been doing for the last four
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years what kind of high school student
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were you how clueless are you about how
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you’re arranging your future what’s your
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identity going to be if you’re not going
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to be a student where are you gonna end
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up in five years it’s like so it’s like
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a that little grade that bad grade is
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like a portal through which snakes can
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crawl and that’s exactly how you respond
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to it especially if you open the door
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too much well maybe this means that I
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shouldn’t be in university well one of
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the rules is don’t you want to you want
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to constrain the anomalous event to the
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minimal necessary domain it’s really
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really important you want to do that
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when you’re arguing with your partner
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which you’ll do all the time we have an
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argument well I should never have
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married you it’s like no no that’s not
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the first response that’s a bad response
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or here’s a really good one you’ve
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always done that sort of thing and you
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always will it’s like oh good great it’s
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like the only answer to that is to hit
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someone because like you’re done right
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you’re you’re like that you’ve always
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like that there isn’t a chance that you
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could be repaired and none of it is
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acceptable it’s like the person’s gonna
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fight with you right away because what
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else are they gonna do so what you want
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to do is you want to minimize it isn’t
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rationalization you want to say okay
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this person did something that disrupted
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our joint map okay what’s the smallest
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possible thing they could do to put it
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back together and you have to know well
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we need to make a plan so you don’t do
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it again or we need to have a discussion
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so that you know that it wasn’t a good
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thing to do but I’m not going to go
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after your whole character I’m gonna say
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when I come home and you’re watching TV
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just come to the door and say hello not
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don’t you love me or something like that
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it’s like no no you just have to walk to
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the door and like give me a hug or
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something and then that’s good enough
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and so then the other person might be
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able to tolerate that much corrective
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information maybe if you’re kind of nice
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about it and you also understand that
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they’re probably going to have something
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equally horrible to say about you in the
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next 15 minutes because you’re gonna do
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something stupid so so you don’t want to
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you don’t want to open the door so that
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every possible snake comes crawling
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through because that’s a pathway to
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depression and you actually see that
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happening in depressed people is that
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every small event produces a cascade
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through their entire value system and
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they end up saying well that’s just
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another reason that I should jump off a
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bridge and they really see it that way
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it’s really awful because they’ve got no
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defenses it’s like well I I didn’t do so
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well in this course it’s like I’m gonna
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get a bad mark in the or in the exam I’m
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gonna get bad mark in the course that’s
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going to screw up my ability to finish
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my degree I’m never going to get into
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the field of my choice it’s just another
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piece of indication that I’m useless and
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that life isn’t worthwhile bang I’m
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going to jump off a bridge and if you’re
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really depressed it’s like each of those
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things hits you with the certainty of
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truth it’s really not good and so you
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want to be careful you want to be
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careful about walking down that pathway
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when you make a mistake you think okay
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what’s the narrowest framework of
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interpretation within which I can I can
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understand this that will require
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minimal behavioral change to decrease
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the probability that it will happen
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again
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it’s Mental Hygiene fund
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yes yeah we’ll get to that we’ll get to
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that that is the next question
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it’s because they don’t exist in
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isolation so and that’s another thing
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frequently when you when you hear
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behavioral accounts of cognitive
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processes they generally only focus on
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as if it’s an isolated thing it’s not it
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exists scalable it’s scalable a bunch of
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ways it’s scalable temporarily because
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what you do now is associated with what
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you’ll do tomorrow and that with what
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you’ll do next week and so forth
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so it has to be scalable temporarily and
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it’s also scalable socially right so it
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has an effect on you that has an effect
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on your family that has an effect on the
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community and so forth and so you don’t
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want to take it’s very difficult to
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think through the effect of your action
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and all those scaling levels
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simultaneously but but you have
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mechanisms that allow you to do that and
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we’ll see I think that the sense of
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let’s assume that you’re not lying to
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yourself constantly so your head isn’t
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full of chaos and garbage and you have
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reasonable relationships with people in
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the world I think that this is leaping
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way ahead I think that your sense of
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meaningful engagement with what you’re
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doing is the psychophysiological marker
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that you’re acting in a way that takes
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all of the stacked representations into
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account simultaneously because you’re
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you’re you’re like you’re trying to
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figure out where you are and you might
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think well that means where I am in this
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room but look this room is not a simple
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thing right it’s nested it’s it’s a
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subset of the university that’s a subset
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of society it’s a subset of your life
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the room is a complicated thing and you
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need to figure out where you should be
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in the room and you can’t do that sure
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surely with perception because all you
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see is me and some of the wall right
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it’s you’ve got this little narrow this
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little narrow portal and so you can’t
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really rely on your perceptions to
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orient you but you do orient yourself
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and I think what you do is you its
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engagement it’s like does this seem
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meaningful and deep and engaging yes
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then it’s an indication that it’s
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serving multiple master
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simultaneously so both maybe both
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socially and also temporarily and so I
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think the sense of meaning is actually
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an instinct that Orient’s people in time
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and space it’s not an empathy nomina
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it’s the most fundamental form of
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perception and that’s the only
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optimistic thought that I’ve ever been
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able to derive from psychology is that
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that actually could be true it could be
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that the sense of meaning is an
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orienting reflex and that would be
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wonderful if it was true because it
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would make it real you know and it’s one
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of the you know the one of the
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devastating elements of nihilism is
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something like well who the hell cares
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what you’re doing what difference is it
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going to make in a million years it’s
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like your sense of meaning is just an
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illusion you know you’re you’re a
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limited creature in a limited place and
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nothing you do really matters it’s like
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that’s a powerful argument especially if
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you’re an objective materialist and a
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reductionist it’s a killer argument but
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it looks to me like it’s wrong it’s
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actually wrong because meaning looks to
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me like it’s an actual phenomena it does
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say that your your position properly
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between chaos and order or something
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like that it’s real so well so we’ll see
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we’re going to develop that argument
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because if if it’s real you want to know
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that because it gives you something to
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stand on
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you know maybe it’s as real as pain but
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it’s not pain it’s something positive
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and you need something positive that you
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can rely on alright so and the
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psychoanalysts I think it air too much
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on the side of the subject they tend to
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think that too much of you is inside of
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you and too little of you is outside of
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you and part of the reason I believe
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that is because of my clinical
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experience I love the psychoanalyst man
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they’re brilliant they’re brilliant
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they’re deep they grapple with real
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problems like with the problems when
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people have real problems and I mean
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profound problems they’re really
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profound moral problems or problems of
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good and evil really you know there are
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things going on in their family that are
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so terrible that well that there there
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are sometimes fatal you know lie upon
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lie upon lie upon lie for
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Cades and decades and decades it’s awful
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and that’s not exactly inside them it’s
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out there in the world and lots of the
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people that I see very famous critic of
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psychology I can’t remember his name but
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I probably will criticize the practice
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of psychology quite effectively in the
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leave in the early 60s the myth of
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mental illness by Thomas says Szasz it’s
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classic you should read it if you’re
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interested in psychology read it like
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it’s a classic and he basically said
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most people have problems in living they
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don’t have psychological problems and so
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I’ve experienced despite my love for the
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psychoanalysts very frequently what I’m
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doing as a therapist is helping people
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have a life that would work you know and
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you can parameterize that it’s like what
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do you need how about some friends that
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people kind of like that how about an
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intimate relationship with someone that
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you can trust that maybe has a future
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that’d be good how about a career that
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puts you in a dominant Archy somewhere
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so at least you’ve got some possibility
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of rising some possibility of
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stabilizing yourself and our schedule in
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a routine because no one can live
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without a routine you just forget that
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if you guys don’t have a routine I would
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recommend like you get one going because
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you cannot be mentally healthy without a
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routine you need to pick a time to get
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up whatever time you want but pick one
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and stick to it because otherwise you
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dis regulate your circadian rhythms and
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they regulate your mood and eat
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something in the morning I had lots of
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clients who’ve had anxiety disorders I
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had one client who was literally
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starving very smart girl sheet there’s
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very little that she liked she kind of
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tried to subsist on like half a cup of
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rice a day she came to me and said I
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have no energy I come home all I want to
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do is watch the same movie over and over
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what like is that weird
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and I thought well it depends on how
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hard you work you know it’s a little
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weird but whatever it’s familiar you’re
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looking for comfort so I did an analysis
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of her diet it’s like three quarters of
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a cup of rice it’s like you’re starving
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eat something
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you know you’ll feel better
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so she modified her diet and you’re all
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her anxiety went away and she had some
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energy it’s like yeah you got to eat so
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a schedule that’s a good thing man your
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brain will thank you for it it will
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stabilize your nervous system with it’s
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a bit of a plan that’s a good thing you
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need a career you need something
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productive to do with your time you need
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to regulate your use of drugs and
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alcohol most particularly alcohol
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because that does even a lot of people
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you need a family like the family you
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have your parents and all that be nice
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if you all got along you could work on
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that that’s a good thing to work on and
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then you know you probably need children
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at some point that’s life that’s what
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life is and if you’re missing you know
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you may have a good reason to not be
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operating on one of those dimensions
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it’s not mandatory but I can tell you
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that if you’re not operating reasonably
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well on four I think I mentioned six if
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you’re not operating reasonably well on
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at least three of them there’s no way
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you’re going to be psychologically
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thriving and that’s more pragmatic in
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some sense than psychological right
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human beings have a nature there’s
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things we need and if we have them well
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that’s good and if we don’t have them
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well then we feel the lack and so
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behaviorists behavioral psychologists
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concentrate a lot more on that sort of
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thing you know it’s practical it’s like
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strategizing make a career plan figure
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out how to negotiate because that’s
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bloody important figure out how to say
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what you need figure out how to tell the
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truth to people figure out how to listen
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to your partner in particular because if
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you listen to them they will actually
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tell you what they want and
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sometimes you can give it to them and
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maybe they’ll return the favor and if
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you practice that for like 15 years well
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then maybe you’re constantly giving each
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other what you want well hooray that
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would be good and then there’s two of
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you under all circumstances and it’s
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better to have two brains than one
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because people think differently because
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of their temperament mostly and so the
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negotiation is where the wisdom arises
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and it’s part of the transformation the
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psychological transformation that’s
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attendant on an intimate relationship
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and one of the fundamental purposes of a
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long-term intimate relationship so we’re
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starting to be able to put the traits to
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sort of nail the traits down to their
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underlying biology with regards to
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neuroticism well if you’re high in
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neuroticism you’re more sensitive to
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anxiety and that’s it regulated at least
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in part by the hippocampus and and
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generated in part by the amygdala
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there’s another part of the brain called
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the periagua aqueduct or gray that seems
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to be associated with the experience of
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pain and pain is quite a complex
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phenomena depression is pain like grief
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is pain like social isolation is pain
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like disappointment is pain like there’s
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anxiety components to that too and so
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neuroticism seems to be something like
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threshold for activation in those
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negative emotion systems so if you’re
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higher in neuroticism one unit of
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uncertainty might produce let’s say
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three units of psychophysiological
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response whereas if you’re lower in
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neuroticism one unit of uncertainty
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might produce one unit of psycho
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physiological response it’s hard you
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know obviously that’s a simplified
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schematic but there’s variability
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because if something unexpected or her
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threatening happens to you it isn’t
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obvious how upset you should get one
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answer what might be brush it off it’s
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nothing another answer might be
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it’s a bloody catastrophe and often when
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something uncertain or threatening
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occurs you don’t have enough information
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at your disposal to make a full
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determination of the potential import of
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this of the circumstance especially if
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it’s uncertain and so then you have to
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guess at how upset you should be and
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where you are on the normal distribution
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with regards to trait neuroticism say
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that sort of determines what your guests
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on average is going to be so you know
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the other with conscientiousness say you
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might say well how hard should you work
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well that’s a really difficult question
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if you’re gonna die tomorrow and then
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you probably shouldn’t work very hard
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today at all so one thing you might say
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is that the degree to which you should
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work hard is dependent on your
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assumptions about the stability of the
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future we actually know this to be true
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because if you put people in wildly
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uncertain circumstances they discount
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the future which is exactly what you
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should do right it’s only makes sense to
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store up goods for future consumption if
524
00:20:06,840 —> 00:20:11,280
the future is likely to be very similar
525
00:20:09,090 —> 00:20:13,100
to the past and the present you need a
526
00:20:11,280 —> 00:20:15,809
stable society for that and
527
00:20:13,100 —> 00:20:18,030
conscientiousness only works in a stable
528
00:20:15,809 —> 00:20:19,799
society because all you do otherwise if
529
00:20:18,030 —> 00:20:21,780
you’re piling up goods which is kind of
530
00:20:19,799 —> 00:20:23,520
what conscientious people do is leaving
531
00:20:21,780 —> 00:20:25,950
them there for the criminals to take or
532
00:20:23,520 —> 00:20:27,450
waiting for the next chaotic upheaval to
533
00:20:25,950 —> 00:20:30,000
wipe out everything that you’ve stored
534
00:20:27,450 —> 00:20:32,309
and so even conscientiousness is a kind
535
00:20:30,000 —> 00:20:33,650
of guess hard-working people say well
536
00:20:32,309 —> 00:20:35,910
you know
537
00:20:33,650 —> 00:20:37,470
sacrifice the present for the future
538
00:20:35,910 —> 00:20:38,820
that’s great as long as the future is
539
00:20:37,470 —> 00:20:40,350
going to be there and you can predict it
540
00:20:38,820 —> 00:20:42,090
but if it’s not going to be there and
541
00:20:40,350 —> 00:20:44,340
it’s unpredictable then the right
542
00:20:42,090 —> 00:20:45,928
response is take what you can take right
543
00:20:44,340 —> 00:20:48,120
now well the getting’s good
544
00:20:45,929 —> 00:20:49,770
now you know obviously there are
545
00:20:48,120 —> 00:20:53,040
troubles with that too it I’m speaking
546
00:20:49,770 —> 00:20:55,770
you know I’m offering rough rules of
547
00:20:53,040 —> 00:20:58,320
thumb but I’m trying to provide you with
548
00:20:55,770 —> 00:21:00,120
some indication of how and why these
549
00:20:58,320 —> 00:21:02,460
difference in value structures exist
550
00:21:00,120 —> 00:21:04,889
because they’re applicable in different
551
00:21:02,460 —> 00:21:06,600
environments you know sometimes in a
552
00:21:04,890 —> 00:21:08,669
dangerous social environment it’s not
553
00:21:06,600 —> 00:21:10,740
obvious that being an extroverted person
554
00:21:08,669 —> 00:21:12,660
is a good idea because extroverted
555
00:21:10,740 —> 00:21:14,790
people they stand out especially if
556
00:21:12,660 —> 00:21:16,679
they’re extroverted and creative right
557
00:21:14,790 —> 00:21:18,659
because not only are they noisy and and
558
00:21:16,679 —> 00:21:21,840
dominant and assertive they’re also
559
00:21:18,660 —> 00:21:23,970
colorful and and flamboyant and
560
00:21:21,840 —> 00:21:26,610
provocative what happens to people is
561
00:21:23,970 —> 00:21:28,380
that as they move towards zero positive
562
00:21:26,610 —> 00:21:30,330
feedback loops get set up so they’re
563
00:21:28,380 —> 00:21:32,160
more likely to hit zero and as they move
564
00:21:30,330 —> 00:21:33,809
away from zero positive feedback loops
565
00:21:32,160 —> 00:21:36,090
get set up so that they’re increasingly
566
00:21:33,809 —> 00:21:38,530
more likely to move away from zero so
567
00:21:36,090 —> 00:21:39,908
here’s an example let’s say
568
00:21:38,530 —> 00:21:41,200
you’re not doing too bad so maybe you’re
569
00:21:39,909 —> 00:21:45,429
in the middle of the normal distribution
570
00:21:41,200 —> 00:21:47,860
then you lose your job okay and so let’s
571
00:21:45,429 —> 00:21:49,360
say you’re a conscientious person and we
572
00:21:47,860 —> 00:21:50,830
can say just for the sake of argument
573
00:21:49,360 —> 00:21:52,360
that you lose your job because of mass
574
00:21:50,830 —> 00:21:53,370
layoffs in your company so it has
575
00:21:52,360 —> 00:21:55,389
nothing to do with you it’s
576
00:21:53,370 —> 00:21:57,549
fundamentally it’s just like luck of the
577
00:21:55,390 —> 00:22:00,700
draw basically but then what happens to
578
00:21:57,549 —> 00:22:02,260
you well if you’re conscientious you’re
579
00:22:00,700 —> 00:22:04,299
gonna you’re gonna go after yourself
580
00:22:02,260 —> 00:22:05,830
pretty hard so you’re gonna and
581
00:22:04,299 —> 00:22:07,539
especially if you’re also high in
582
00:22:05,830 —> 00:22:08,830
neuroticism it’s gonna depress you to
583
00:22:07,539 —> 00:22:11,020
lose your job and maybe you’re in a
584
00:22:08,830 —> 00:22:12,129
situation where you just for one reason
585
00:22:11,020 —> 00:22:13,750
or another you don’t have that many
586
00:22:12,130 —> 00:22:15,460
other opportunities now maybe you should
587
00:22:13,750 —> 00:22:17,230
look for them but maybe you’re in a
588
00:22:15,460 —> 00:22:19,240
depressed strata of the economy or
589
00:22:17,230 —> 00:22:21,159
you’re geographically located somewhere
590
00:22:19,240 —> 00:22:23,830
that makes moving difficult or so on and
591
00:22:21,159 —> 00:22:25,299
so forth you know so but you you lose a
592
00:22:23,830 —> 00:22:27,850
job and then you start to get depressed
593
00:22:25,299 —> 00:22:28,658
because of that well then as you start
594
00:22:27,850 —> 00:22:30,280
to get depressed
595
00:22:28,659 —> 00:22:32,289
you know it decreases the probability
596
00:22:30,280 —> 00:22:34,210
that you’re gonna look for a job but
597
00:22:32,289 —> 00:22:36,370
also maybe starts to put stress on your
598
00:22:34,210 —> 00:22:37,809
family and it also starts to decrease
599
00:22:36,370 —> 00:22:39,789
the probability that you’re in going to
600
00:22:37,809 —> 00:22:41,950
engage in positive social interaction so
601
00:22:39,789 —> 00:22:43,840
now not only are you unemployed and
602
00:22:41,950 —> 00:22:45,610
suffering from economic stress but your
603
00:22:43,840 —> 00:22:47,350
marriage is starting to suffer and
604
00:22:45,610 —> 00:22:48,789
you’re starting to isolate yourself from
605
00:22:47,350 —> 00:22:50,289
your friends and then of course as your
606
00:22:48,789 —> 00:22:51,879
marriage suffers and the stress builds
607
00:22:50,289 —> 00:22:53,169
up then that’s going to make you more
608
00:22:51,880 —> 00:22:54,640
depressed and that’s going to keep you
609
00:22:53,169 —> 00:22:55,630
even farther away from your friends and
610
00:22:54,640 —> 00:22:57,460
that’s going to decrease the likelihood
611
00:22:55,630 —> 00:22:59,380
that you’re gonna have enough positive
612
00:22:57,460 —> 00:23:01,480
emotion and enthusiasm to look for
613
00:22:59,380 —> 00:23:02,860
another job and then you know maybe you
614
00:23:01,480 —> 00:23:04,960
want to add a bit of a drinking problem
615
00:23:02,860 —> 00:23:06,939
to that just for fun and you can see
616
00:23:04,960 —> 00:23:09,159
that you can get a spiral going that’s
617
00:23:06,940 —> 00:23:11,200
just taking you down right and there’s
618
00:23:09,159 —> 00:23:14,620
all sorts of things because lots of
619
00:23:11,200 —> 00:23:16,809
times people conceptualize let’s say you
620
00:23:14,620 —> 00:23:20,559
know you’re unemployed guy and you go to
621
00:23:16,809 —> 00:23:22,000
counseling and you get a diagnosis of
622
00:23:20,559 —> 00:23:23,500
depression and the thing about a
623
00:23:22,000 —> 00:23:25,179
diagnosis of depression it’s sort of
624
00:23:23,500 —> 00:23:26,770
like the assumption is there’s something
625
00:23:25,179 —> 00:23:28,720
gone wrong with your psychological
626
00:23:26,770 —> 00:23:30,490
structure it’s like if you’re unemployed
627
00:23:28,720 —> 00:23:32,020
and you you’re depressed it isn’t
628
00:23:30,490 —> 00:23:34,000
obvious at all that the problem is in
629
00:23:32,020 —> 00:23:35,770
your head you know you know what I mean
630
00:23:34,000 —> 00:23:37,600
it’s it doesn’t it doesn’t even obvious
631
00:23:35,770 —> 00:23:40,270
that it’s a psychological problem it’s
632
00:23:37,600 —> 00:23:42,879
just a problem and problems can take you
633
00:23:40,270 —> 00:23:44,830
out and so the you know if you’re
634
00:23:42,880 —> 00:23:46,150
unemployed and you’re under economic
635
00:23:44,830 —> 00:23:48,309
stress and your marriage is starting to
636
00:23:46,150 —> 00:23:50,200
shake and you’re isolating yourself from
637
00:23:48,309 —> 00:23:52,300
your friends and you’re less likely to
638
00:23:50,200 —> 00:23:54,100
be motivated to go look for a job you
639
00:23:52,300 —> 00:23:55,810
sort of think about that as a depressive
640
00:23:54,100 —> 00:23:58,870
spiral but you can also think of it as a
641
00:23:55,810 —> 00:24:01,149
conspiracy in some sense of external
642
00:23:58,870 —> 00:24:02,409
forces that are augering you into the
643
00:24:01,150 —> 00:24:04,870
ground and we don’t tend to
644
00:24:02,410 —> 00:24:07,300
conceptualize psychological disorders
645
00:24:04,870 —> 00:24:09,340
that way but we should because lots of
646
00:24:07,300 —> 00:24:10,840
times when people are suffering from
647
00:24:09,340 —> 00:24:12,970
something that you could describe in
648
00:24:10,840 —> 00:24:15,310
Psychological terminology and depression
649
00:24:12,970 —> 00:24:16,390
is a very good example of that it isn’t
650
00:24:15,310 —> 00:24:18,639
obvious that there’s something wrong
651
00:24:16,390 —> 00:24:20,950
with them psychologically often they
652
00:24:18,640 —> 00:24:23,650
just are in trouble and there isn’t a
653
00:24:20,950 —> 00:24:26,310
category in in psychological diagnosis
654
00:24:23,650 —> 00:24:29,500
for client in serious trouble but my
655
00:24:26,310 —> 00:24:31,629
experience has been almost without
656
00:24:29,500 —> 00:24:33,310
exception that the people that come to
657
00:24:31,630 —> 00:24:34,690
see me come to see me because
658
00:24:33,310 —> 00:24:35,919
something’s gone wrong with their life
659
00:24:34,690 —> 00:24:38,290
not because they have a psychological
660
00:24:35,920 —> 00:24:41,080
problem now you could say well there are
661
00:24:38,290 —> 00:24:42,909
psychological inadequacies such as they
662
00:24:41,080 —> 00:24:44,949
might be are interfering with their
663
00:24:42,910 —> 00:24:47,620
ability to recover or maybe even served
664
00:24:44,950 —> 00:24:49,600
as precursors to you know increase the
665
00:24:47,620 —> 00:24:52,090
probability of the catastrophe and so a
666
00:24:49,600 —> 00:24:54,219
well-functioning personality has all the
667
00:24:52,090 —> 00:24:55,870
micro routines in place that’s actually
668
00:24:54,220 —> 00:24:57,490
something that you help people with if
669
00:24:55,870 —> 00:24:59,379
you’re a behavioral therapist because
670
00:24:57,490 —> 00:25:01,270
one of the things you assume if you’re a
671
00:24:59,380 —> 00:25:03,130
behavioral therapist is that sometimes
672
00:25:01,270 —> 00:25:05,740
the reason people aren’t doing things is
673
00:25:03,130 —> 00:25:07,540
because they don’t know how you know
674
00:25:05,740 —> 00:25:09,520
sometimes maybe the person is depressed
675
00:25:07,540 —> 00:25:11,409
but potentially high-functioning they
676
00:25:09,520 —> 00:25:13,540
got all the damn micro routines they’re
677
00:25:11,410 —> 00:25:14,800
well socialized they’re just dormant you
678
00:25:13,540 —> 00:25:16,600
got to get them awake again and
679
00:25:14,800 —> 00:25:18,580
implementing them but sometimes you get
680
00:25:16,600 —> 00:25:21,159
someone in your practice say who’s just
681
00:25:18,580 —> 00:25:22,870
being neglected like you cannot believe
682
00:25:21,160 —> 00:25:24,370
right the parents never paid any
683
00:25:22,870 —> 00:25:25,840
attention to them or maybe just punished
684
00:25:24,370 —> 00:25:28,360
them every time they did something good
685
00:25:25,840 —> 00:25:29,649
that’s really fun and then you know they
686
00:25:28,360 —> 00:25:34,360
didn’t make friends and so they’re
687
00:25:29,650 —> 00:25:36,010
really really big and and and poorly
688
00:25:34,360 —> 00:25:37,750
articulated and so then what you do is
689
00:25:36,010 —> 00:25:39,270
you work at the bottom of the micro
690
00:25:37,750 —> 00:25:41,680
routines and get them to practice
691
00:25:39,270 —> 00:25:43,420
building up all these little attributes
692
00:25:41,680 —> 00:25:44,920
that they didn’t build up and you know
693
00:25:43,420 —> 00:25:46,960
one of the things you can think about in
694
00:25:44,920 —> 00:25:48,430
terms of character development is so now
695
00:25:46,960 —> 00:25:50,020
maybe understand something about your
696
00:25:48,430 —> 00:25:51,610
own personality you might say well what
697
00:25:50,020 —> 00:25:54,310
could you do to improve your personality
698
00:25:51,610 —> 00:25:56,290
and the answer is develop some of the
699
00:25:54,310 —> 00:25:58,450
micro routines on the other side of the
700
00:25:56,290 —> 00:26:00,250
personality distribution so if you’re
701
00:25:58,450 —> 00:26:01,630
disagreeable as hell maybe you could
702
00:26:00,250 —> 00:26:04,030
start learning how to do nice things for
703
00:26:01,630 —> 00:26:05,530
people and that actually works by the
704
00:26:04,030 —> 00:26:06,260
way so if you take disagreeable people
705
00:26:05,530 —> 00:26:07,790
who are depressed
706
00:26:06,260 —> 00:26:09,200
and you get them doing nice things for
707
00:26:07,790 —> 00:26:10,940
other people their depression tends to
708
00:26:09,200 —> 00:26:12,860
lift but then by the same token if
709
00:26:10,940 —> 00:26:15,320
you’re agreeable then you should
710
00:26:12,860 —> 00:26:16,909
practice doing some things for yourself
711
00:26:15,320 —> 00:26:18,830
and being more tough minded in your
712
00:26:16,910 —> 00:26:20,840
negotiations and so you can sort of
713
00:26:18,830 —> 00:26:22,820
place yourself on the on the personality
714
00:26:20,840 —> 00:26:25,100
trait distribution you know you’re
715
00:26:22,820 —> 00:26:27,260
extrovert it’s like okay man learn to
716
00:26:25,100 —> 00:26:29,300
spend some time with yourself right
717
00:26:27,260 —> 00:26:31,100
you’re low in openness well try reading
718
00:26:29,300 —> 00:26:32,750
a book that’s outside of your you know
719
00:26:31,100 —> 00:26:35,959
your your sphere of interest now and
720
00:26:32,750 —> 00:26:37,210
then if you’re conscientious well you
721
00:26:35,960 —> 00:26:39,620
should probably learn how to relax
722
00:26:37,210 —> 00:26:41,270
occasionally and and so forth so you can
723
00:26:39,620 —> 00:26:42,649
I think partly what you’re doing is
724
00:26:41,270 —> 00:26:44,740
you’re developing your personality is
725
00:26:42,650 —> 00:26:46,910
not moving the mean much the average
726
00:26:44,740 —> 00:26:49,130
where you know where you’re located but
727
00:26:46,910 —> 00:26:50,630
you’re extending the standard deviation
728
00:26:49,130 —> 00:26:53,060
so that you’re a bigger bag of tricks
729
00:26:50,630 —> 00:26:54,950
than you were before and I think you can
730
00:26:53,060 —> 00:26:57,889
practice that consciously it’s like
731
00:26:54,950 —> 00:27:00,530
you’re hyper orderly it’s well get a dog
732
00:26:57,890 —> 00:27:01,880
you know dogs they’re messy horrible
733
00:27:00,530 —> 00:27:03,170
things you know it’s just what you need
734
00:27:01,880 —> 00:27:04,580
if you’re hyper orderly because they’re
735
00:27:03,170 —> 00:27:07,400
gonna leave hair everywhere and force
736
00:27:04,580 —> 00:27:09,110
you live with it and so okay so and so
737
00:27:07,400 —> 00:27:11,720
this is sort of you right this is your
738
00:27:09,110 —> 00:27:14,030
personality it’s this connect collection
739
00:27:11,720 —> 00:27:15,740
of root subroutines that you’ve turned
740
00:27:14,030 —> 00:27:17,090
into a hierarchy and then there’s
741
00:27:15,740 —> 00:27:18,890
something at the top of it and that’s
742
00:27:17,090 —> 00:27:19,909
that’s a big question like what the hell
743
00:27:18,890 —> 00:27:21,830
should be at the top of the hierarchy
744
00:27:19,910 —> 00:27:24,050
because that’s the ultimate question of
745
00:27:21,830 —> 00:27:25,520
unity and then the the clinicians would
746
00:27:24,050 —> 00:27:27,200
say well it’s the self-actualized person
747
00:27:25,520 —> 00:27:29,540
or it’s the self or something like that
748
00:27:27,200 —> 00:27:32,210
you know that’s that’s the ID that’s the
749
00:27:29,540 —> 00:27:34,520
implicit and perhaps explicit ideal that
750
00:27:32,210 —> 00:27:36,890
you’re aiming for and you might say well
751
00:27:34,520 —> 00:27:39,650
is does such thing exists that I would
752
00:27:36,890 —> 00:27:41,840
say well do you admire people because
753
00:27:39,650 —> 00:27:44,270
that’s your answer right do you despise
754
00:27:41,840 —> 00:27:45,770
people well you like some people and you
755
00:27:44,270 —> 00:27:47,629
don’t like others you respect some
756
00:27:45,770 —> 00:27:49,520
people you don’t respect others well
757
00:27:47,630 —> 00:27:51,680
you’re acting out the notion that
758
00:27:49,520 —> 00:27:53,120
there’s at least an implicit ideal you
759
00:27:51,680 —> 00:27:54,650
do the same thing when you go to movies
760
00:27:53,120 —> 00:27:56,540
you know you you know who the hero is
761
00:27:54,650 —> 00:27:58,250
you know who the bad guy is you’re
762
00:27:56,540 —> 00:27:59,870
acting out the proposition that there’s
763
00:27:58,250 —> 00:28:01,700
some sort of value hierarchy and there’s
764
00:27:59,870 —> 00:28:04,310
some sort of manifestation of it that’s
765
00:28:01,700 —> 00:28:06,260
coherent across time so you appear to
766
00:28:04,310 —> 00:28:07,730
believe that and you know you are driven
767
00:28:06,260 —> 00:28:10,790
at least to some degree by your own
768
00:28:07,730 —> 00:28:14,210
inner ideals and so you tend to answer
769
00:28:10,790 —> 00:28:15,950
the question is that real with an
770
00:28:14,210 —> 00:28:17,990
affirmative and if you don’t there’s
771
00:28:15,950 —> 00:28:19,250
catastrophic consequences Nietzsche and
772
00:28:17,990 —> 00:28:20,090
the existentialist we’re very good at
773
00:28:19,250 —> 00:28:21,049
detailing maths
774
00:28:20,090 —> 00:28:24,590
like you let your value hierarchy
775
00:28:21,049 —> 00:28:27,139
disintegrate well then what well part of
776
00:28:24,590 —> 00:28:28,850
it is nihilistic chaos whoo that’s not
777
00:28:27,140 —> 00:28:31,039
so much fun and then there’s the
778
00:28:28,850 —> 00:28:33,049
alignment of nihilistic chaos with the
779
00:28:31,039 —> 00:28:35,210
intrinsic desire that someone will come
780
00:28:33,049 —> 00:28:37,129
along and tell you what to do right so
781
00:28:35,210 —> 00:28:39,470
what happens is if you let this devolve
782
00:28:37,130 —> 00:28:41,390
you end up with nihilistic exists not
783
00:28:39,470 —> 00:28:43,909
with nihilistic chaos or the demand for
784
00:28:41,390 —> 00:28:45,380
for the tyrant to come forward and we’ve
785
00:28:43,909 —> 00:28:49,600
had that happen lots of times and
786
00:28:45,380 —> 00:28:49,600
doesn’t seem to have gone that well so
787
00:28:50,380 —> 00:28:55,130
all right well so what happens when you
788
00:28:53,029 —> 00:28:57,070
you lay out these little routines in the
789
00:28:55,130 —> 00:28:59,990
world at different levels of analysis
790
00:28:57,070 —> 00:29:02,510
well this is how your emotions function
791
00:28:59,990 —> 00:29:05,510
broadly speaking you know you’re aiming
792
00:29:02,510 —> 00:29:07,100
at something and this is an
793
00:29:05,510 —> 00:29:08,629
oversimplification which is why I want
794
00:29:07,100 —> 00:29:13,360
to show you this right when I show you
795
00:29:08,630 —> 00:29:15,580
this assume that it’s made out of that
796
00:29:13,360 —> 00:29:18,918
right it’s just a schematic
797
00:29:15,580 —> 00:29:20,629
oversimplification because even if let’s
798
00:29:18,919 —> 00:29:22,640
say that I’m trying to do something as
799
00:29:20,630 —> 00:29:26,210
simple as walking towards the door I
800
00:29:22,640 —> 00:29:28,039
mean that the action of walking towards
801
00:29:26,210 —> 00:29:30,649
the door is predicated on the existence
802
00:29:28,039 —> 00:29:34,220
of all the subroutines that enable me to
803
00:29:30,649 —> 00:29:36,739
propel my body across time and space and
804
00:29:34,220 —> 00:29:38,990
like there’s that took a lot of internal
805
00:29:36,740 —> 00:29:41,090
organization to get that right it’s a
806
00:29:38,990 —> 00:29:43,909
traumatized now and so you can treat it
807
00:29:41,090 —> 00:29:45,830
like it’s invisible but implicit in any
808
00:29:43,909 —> 00:29:48,049
one of these structures is this entire
809
00:29:45,830 —> 00:29:50,539
structure and you actually see this in
810
00:29:48,049 —> 00:29:51,889
therapy very frequently — okay one of
811
00:29:50,539 —> 00:29:53,840
the things that I figured out over the
812
00:29:51,890 —> 00:29:56,149
last years is this is a good proposition
813
00:29:53,840 —> 00:29:59,270
so you know it’s pretty self-evident
814
00:29:56,149 —> 00:30:00,739
that life is has got its rat’s nest of
815
00:29:59,270 —> 00:30:02,090
miseries and that’s for sure and maybe
816
00:30:00,740 —> 00:30:04,130
you could even make a categorical
817
00:30:02,090 —> 00:30:06,139
statement that life is mostly a rat’s
818
00:30:04,130 —> 00:30:08,480
nest of misery you know you can make a
819
00:30:06,140 —> 00:30:10,490
pretty powerful argument for that but
820
00:30:08,480 —> 00:30:11,929
then there’s a counter question which is
821
00:30:10,490 —> 00:30:13,429
well what if you tried not to make it
822
00:30:11,929 —> 00:30:16,549
any more miserable that had had to be
823
00:30:13,429 —> 00:30:19,549
right then what then what would it be
824
00:30:16,549 —> 00:30:21,620
like and my suspicions are is that law
825
00:30:19,549 —> 00:30:23,270
about misery I would suspect that most
826
00:30:21,620 —> 00:30:25,189
of that misery would go away because
827
00:30:23,270 —> 00:30:27,139
it’s the unnecessary misery that really
828
00:30:25,190 —> 00:30:29,030
brings you down you know it’s like well
829
00:30:27,140 —> 00:30:33,110
someone has cancer it’s like that sucks
830
00:30:29,030 —> 00:30:33,899
but it’s not like it’s not like you can
831
00:30:33,110 —> 00:30:36,120
say
832
00:30:33,900 —> 00:30:38,760
if only we had done this differently
833
00:30:36,120 —> 00:30:40,620
then that wouldn’t have happened but
834
00:30:38,760 —> 00:30:42,390
when someone’s out like torturing you in
835
00:30:40,620 —> 00:30:43,500
a malevolent way or maybe you’re doing
836
00:30:42,390 —> 00:30:45,480
the same you can always ask yourself
837
00:30:43,500 —> 00:30:48,540
well really it’s this really necessary
838
00:30:45,480 —> 00:30:49,950
is this just like an useless add-on to
839
00:30:48,540 —> 00:30:52,139
the miseries of life that’s what
840
00:30:49,950 —> 00:30:55,590
disheartens people and so even in your
841
00:30:52,140 —> 00:30:58,140
own life if if you if you aren’t
842
00:30:55,590 —> 00:31:00,419
suffering from self-imposed misery and
843
00:30:58,140 —> 00:31:02,550
you’re only suffering from an escapable
844
00:31:00,420 —> 00:31:05,040
misery maybe you could handle that and
845
00:31:02,550 —> 00:31:07,409
you know you could you could survive you
846
00:31:05,040 —> 00:31:10,139
could bear it and even maybe without
847
00:31:07,410 —> 00:31:12,179
becoming irredeemably corrupt and so the
848
00:31:10,140 —> 00:31:14,130
goal would be well yeah life is a rat’s
849
00:31:12,179 —> 00:31:16,410
nest of miseries and maybe it has no
850
00:31:14,130 —> 00:31:18,570
ultimate meaning we could say that for
851
00:31:16,410 —> 00:31:20,370
feeling particularly pessimistic but it
852
00:31:18,570 —> 00:31:21,809
still leaves one question open which is
853
00:31:20,370 —> 00:31:24,870
if you didn’t do everything you could to
854
00:31:21,809 —> 00:31:27,629
make it worse how good could you make it
855
00:31:24,870 —> 00:31:30,500
be and the least answer is well it it
856
00:31:27,630 —> 00:31:33,000
could be tragedy but maybe not hell and
857
00:31:30,500 —> 00:31:34,380
I think that’s right I really believe
858
00:31:33,000 —> 00:31:37,080
that that’s that’s the most pessimistic
859
00:31:34,380 —> 00:31:39,480
proper statement the worst-case outcome
860
00:31:37,080 —> 00:31:41,159
in the worst of all possible worlds is
861
00:31:39,480 —> 00:31:43,740
that your life could be tragic but not
862
00:31:41,160 —> 00:31:46,080
hell and that’s blood better than hell
863
00:31:43,740 —> 00:31:47,309
right it’s it’s and you think I could
864
00:31:46,080 —> 00:31:49,020
give you an example of the difference
865
00:31:47,309 —> 00:31:51,540
you’re at your mother’s deathbed
866
00:31:49,020 —> 00:31:53,520
well that’s tragedy here’s another
867
00:31:51,540 —> 00:31:55,230
scenario you’re out your mother’s
868
00:31:53,520 —> 00:31:58,410
deathbed and all you you and all your
869
00:31:55,230 —> 00:32:00,000
idiot siblings are arguing well that’s
870
00:31:58,410 —> 00:32:01,890
the difference between tragedy and hell
871
00:32:00,000 —> 00:32:03,300
and you might be able to tolerate the
872
00:32:01,890 —> 00:32:04,770
first circumstance and maybe it would
873
00:32:03,300 —> 00:32:07,830
even bring you closer together with your
874
00:32:04,770 —> 00:32:09,600
family members the second one no one can
875
00:32:07,830 —> 00:32:12,240
bear that you walk away from a situation
876
00:32:09,600 —> 00:32:14,070
like that sick of yourself and sick of
877
00:32:12,240 —> 00:32:16,080
everything else — and you know it’s
878
00:32:14,070 —> 00:32:19,740
often the case that tragic circumstances
879
00:32:16,080 —> 00:32:21,270
bring out the Dragons because the stress
880
00:32:19,740 —> 00:32:24,030
is high and all those things that people
881
00:32:21,270 —> 00:32:26,129
haven’t dealt with they don’t have the
882
00:32:24,030 —> 00:32:28,290
energy to repress and and all the
883
00:32:26,130 —> 00:32:31,440
bitterness comes pouring forward it’s
884
00:32:28,290 —> 00:32:33,450
like seriously man so that’s actually a
885
00:32:31,440 —> 00:32:35,100
good it’s a rough lesson but it’s a good
886
00:32:33,450 —> 00:32:37,530
hallmark for figuring out whether or not
887
00:32:35,100 —> 00:32:39,540
you’re you’ve got yourself adjusted
888
00:32:37,530 —> 00:32:42,210
properly and in relationship to your
889
00:32:39,540 —> 00:32:43,920
siblings it’s like if you all gathered
890
00:32:42,210 —> 00:32:47,399
around the bed of someone close who is
891
00:32:43,920 —> 00:32:49,379
dying could you manage it if they
892
00:32:47,399 —> 00:32:51,029
there is no it’s like well put your life
893
00:32:49,379 —> 00:32:53,039
together because it’s going to happen
894
00:32:51,029 —> 00:32:55,229
and you should be the person who’s there
895
00:32:53,039 —> 00:32:57,269
that can do it and do it properly and
896
00:32:55,229 —> 00:32:59,279
then maybe you’d find that it isn’t the
897
00:32:57,269 —> 00:33:02,009
sort of thing that will undermine your
898
00:32:59,279 —> 00:33:03,869
faith in life itself and I’ve seen I’ve
899
00:33:02,009 —> 00:33:07,519
seen both of those situations you know
900
00:33:03,869 —> 00:33:10,080
ugly ugly ugly situations you know
901
00:33:07,519 —> 00:33:12,330
murderously ugly situations and then
902
00:33:10,080 —> 00:33:14,129
their opposite where people have had
903
00:33:12,330 —> 00:33:15,809
terrible things happening to happen to
904
00:33:14,129 —> 00:33:18,899
them as a family and you know they pull
905
00:33:15,809 —> 00:33:21,809
together and they rebuild their damn
906
00:33:18,899 —> 00:33:25,589
ship and they sail away so that seems to
907
00:33:21,809 —> 00:33:28,229
me to be a lot better that makes you
908
00:33:25,589 —> 00:33:30,359
know when the flood comes right well
909
00:33:28,229 —> 00:33:32,190
okay so the same thing the question
910
00:33:30,359 —> 00:33:37,289
emerges well who are you well you could
911
00:33:32,190 —> 00:33:38,999
say your this plan that’s what people
912
00:33:37,289 —> 00:33:40,830
usually that’s how people usually
913
00:33:38,999 —> 00:33:42,479
identify maybe they have no plan at all
914
00:33:40,830 —> 00:33:44,639
and they’re just in chaos right that’s
915
00:33:42,479 —> 00:33:46,229
like being in the belly of the beast
916
00:33:44,639 —> 00:33:48,418
they’re nihilistic and chaos they have
917
00:33:46,229 —> 00:33:49,950
no plan they’re just chaos itself and
918
00:33:48,419 —> 00:33:52,259
that’s a very dreadful situation for
919
00:33:49,950 —> 00:33:54,419
people to be in or maybe they conjure
920
00:33:52,259 —> 00:33:55,889
together a plan that’s their identity
921
00:33:54,419 —> 00:33:57,389
it’s kind of fragile and they’re holding
922
00:33:55,889 —> 00:33:58,709
on to that with with everything they’ve
923
00:33:57,389 —> 00:34:00,570
got it’s their little stick of wood that
924
00:33:58,710 —> 00:34:02,580
they’re floating in the ocean clinging
925
00:34:00,570 —> 00:34:04,918
to you know and so they’re identifying
926
00:34:02,580 —> 00:34:06,478
really hard with that plan that’s what
927
00:34:04,919 —> 00:34:08,099
happens when you’re an ideologue is that
928
00:34:06,479 —> 00:34:10,559
you’re identifying really hard with that
929
00:34:08,099 —> 00:34:12,779
plan the problem is is something comes
930
00:34:10,559 —> 00:34:14,250
up to confront it well how do you act
931
00:34:12,779 —> 00:34:17,369
well you can’t let go with a plan
932
00:34:14,250 —> 00:34:19,139
because you drown then you cling to it
933
00:34:17,369 —> 00:34:21,389
rigidly well that’s no good because then
934
00:34:19,139 —> 00:34:23,010
you can’t learn anything then if that’s
935
00:34:21,389 —> 00:34:24,389
you you’re a totalitarian you’re not
936
00:34:23,010 —> 00:34:26,339
going to learn anything you’re going to
937
00:34:24,389 —> 00:34:27,450
end up in something that’s close enough
938
00:34:26,339 —> 00:34:28,828
to hell so that you won’t know the
939
00:34:27,449 —> 00:34:30,629
difference and you might drag everyone
940
00:34:28,829 —> 00:34:32,309
along with you that’s happened plenty of
941
00:34:30,629 —> 00:34:33,839
times right it’s the whole story of the
942
00:34:32,309 —> 00:34:35,669
20th century it happened over and over
943
00:34:33,839 —> 00:34:39,029
and over and it happens in people’s
944
00:34:35,668 —> 00:34:40,589
states it’s happens in their business
945
00:34:39,029 —> 00:34:42,239
organizations that happens in their
946
00:34:40,589 —> 00:34:44,069
cities that happens in their provinces
947
00:34:42,239 —> 00:34:46,739
it happens in their States and it
948
00:34:44,069 —> 00:34:50,250
happens in their psyches all at the same
949
00:34:46,739 —> 00:34:51,658
time you can’t blame the manifestation
950
00:34:50,250 —> 00:34:53,309
of that sort of thing on any of those
951
00:34:51,659 —> 00:34:55,710
one levels it happens when a society
952
00:34:53,309 —> 00:34:57,539
goes down that way it goes down
953
00:34:55,710 —> 00:34:59,819
everywhere at the same time it’s not the
954
00:34:57,539 —> 00:35:01,349
totalitarians at the top and all the
955
00:34:59,819 —> 00:35:03,420
happy people striving to be
956
00:35:01,349 —> 00:35:05,400
at the bottom it’s not that at all it’s
957
00:35:03,420 —> 00:35:06,839
totalitarianism at every single level of
958
00:35:05,400 —> 00:35:08,819
the hierarchy including the
959
00:35:06,839 —> 00:35:10,049
psychological and so you don’t want to
960
00:35:08,819 —> 00:35:11,699
be the thing you don’t want to be in
961
00:35:10,049 —> 00:35:12,839
chaos that’s for sure but you don’t want
962
00:35:11,699 —> 00:35:15,299
to be the thing that clings so
963
00:35:12,839 —> 00:35:17,849
desperately to the raft that you can’t
964
00:35:15,299 —> 00:35:20,849
let go when someone comes to rescue you
965
00:35:17,849 —> 00:35:22,529
right you don’t want to be that so then
966
00:35:20,849 —> 00:35:24,299
you think well exactly what are you
967
00:35:22,529 —> 00:35:27,630
you know what the chaos you know what
968
00:35:24,299 —> 00:35:30,359
the plan maybe your the thing that
969
00:35:27,630 —> 00:35:33,559
confronts the obstacle and I would say
970
00:35:30,359 —> 00:35:36,449
that’s the categorical lesson of of
971
00:35:33,559 —> 00:35:38,579
psychology insofar as it has to do with
972
00:35:36,449 —> 00:35:40,019
personal transformation that’s what you
973
00:35:38,579 —> 00:35:41,339
always teach people in psychotherapy I
974
00:35:40,019 —> 00:35:42,538
don’t care what sort of psychotherapists
975
00:35:41,339 —> 00:35:44,819
you are you’re always teaching them the
976
00:35:42,539 —> 00:35:45,299
same thing you’re the thing that can you
977
00:35:44,819 —> 00:35:47,640
not
978
00:35:45,299 —> 00:35:49,319
you’re not the plan you’re the thing
979
00:35:47,640 —> 00:35:51,239
that can confront the obstacle to the
980
00:35:49,319 —> 00:35:52,920
plant and then when you know even
981
00:35:51,239 —> 00:35:55,949
further that the obstacle is not only an
982
00:35:52,920 —> 00:35:57,209
obstacle but opportunity itself well
983
00:35:55,949 —> 00:35:58,499
then your whole view of the world can
984
00:35:57,209 —> 00:36:00,058
change because you might think well I’ve
985
00:35:58,499 —> 00:36:02,999
got this plan something came up to
986
00:36:00,059 —> 00:36:04,529
object to it it’s like it’s possible
987
00:36:02,999 —> 00:36:05,999
that the thing that’s objecting has
988
00:36:04,529 —> 00:36:07,499
something to teach you that will take
989
00:36:05,999 —> 00:36:09,479
you to the place where you develop an
990
00:36:07,499 —> 00:36:11,339
even better plant that’s a nice
991
00:36:09,479 —> 00:36:13,618
framework to use it’s like are you so
992
00:36:11,339 —> 00:36:15,930
sure that this is a problem is that the
993
00:36:13,619 —> 00:36:18,209
only way that you can look at it or is
994
00:36:15,930 —> 00:36:20,609
it an opportunity I mean I’m not trying
995
00:36:18,209 —> 00:36:21,989
to be you know naively optimistic there
996
00:36:20,609 —> 00:36:24,119
are some things that’s pretty hard to
997
00:36:21,989 —> 00:36:25,619
extract gold from some dragons and maybe
998
00:36:24,119 —> 00:36:26,339
the death of a family member is a good
999
00:36:25,619 —> 00:36:28,349
example of that
1000
00:36:26,339 —> 00:36:30,089
but in even in a situation like that I
1001
00:36:28,349 —> 00:36:33,239
can tell you that it’s an opportunity
1002
00:36:30,089 —> 00:36:35,910
for it’s an opportunity for maturation
1003
00:36:33,239 —> 00:36:37,739
that’s for sure and the thing is you
1004
00:36:35,910 —> 00:36:39,989
might say well it’s pretty miserable to
1005
00:36:37,739 —> 00:36:41,999
go to be digging for gold when someone’s
1006
00:36:39,989 —> 00:36:43,229
falling into the grave well if they
1007
00:36:41,999 —> 00:36:45,419
really loved you first of all that’s
1008
00:36:43,229 —> 00:36:46,739
what they’ll want you to do and second
1009
00:36:45,420 —> 00:36:48,989
you’re gonna make their death a lot more
1010
00:36:46,739 —> 00:36:50,400
palatable experience for them if you’re
1011
00:36:48,989 —> 00:36:52,289
someone who can be in the room and be
1012
00:36:50,400 —> 00:36:53,609
helpful instead of be you know quivering
1013
00:36:52,289 —> 00:36:55,469
in the corner and feeling that the
1014
00:36:53,609 —> 00:36:57,269
entire world is collapsing in on you I
1015
00:36:55,469 —> 00:36:59,940
mean that’s another you want to be the
1016
00:36:57,269 —> 00:37:03,118
useful person at the funeral how’s that
1017
00:36:59,940 —> 00:37:04,319
for a goal that’s a good goal man you
1018
00:37:03,119 —> 00:37:06,299
know that you’ve got yourself together
1019
00:37:04,319 —> 00:37:08,249
in a situation like that because you’re
1020
00:37:06,299 —> 00:37:10,499
gonna be at them and maybe you want to
1021
00:37:08,249 —> 00:37:13,198
be the person on whose shoulder people
1022
00:37:10,499 —> 00:37:14,939
cry that’d be a good goal that’s kind of
1023
00:37:13,199 —> 00:37:16,530
you know I don’t like being I
1024
00:37:14,940 —> 00:37:17,910
evilly optimistic so when I tell you to
1025
00:37:16,530 —> 00:37:21,180
get your life together I’m not going to
1026
00:37:17,910 —> 00:37:23,899
say roses and sunshine it’s like that’s
1027
00:37:21,180 —> 00:37:26,640
that’s that’s that’s pablum for fools
1028
00:37:23,900 —> 00:37:29,430
but it really is something to be the
1029
00:37:26,640 —> 00:37:31,910
reliable person out of funeral there’s
1030
00:37:29,430 —> 00:37:33,990
this idea in union psychology called the
1031
00:37:31,910 —> 00:37:37,049
circumambulation and you only had this
1032
00:37:33,990 —> 00:37:39,509
idea that you had a potential future
1033
00:37:37,050 —> 00:37:41,910
self which would be in potential
1034
00:37:39,510 —> 00:37:44,310
everything that you could be and that it
1035
00:37:41,910 —> 00:37:46,859
manifests itself moment to moment in
1036
00:37:44,310 —> 00:37:49,230
your present life by making you
1037
00:37:46,859 —> 00:37:50,970
interested in things and the things that
1038
00:37:49,230 —> 00:37:52,500
you’re interested in are the things that
1039
00:37:50,970 —> 00:37:54,450
would guide you along the path that
1040
00:37:52,500 —> 00:37:57,329
would lead you to maximal development
1041
00:37:54,450 —> 00:38:00,779
now it sounds up like a metaphysical
1042
00:37:57,329 —> 00:38:03,690
idea or a or a mystical idea even but
1043
00:38:00,780 —> 00:38:05,790
but it’s not it’s it’s not it’s a really
1044
00:38:03,690 —> 00:38:08,490
profoundly biological idea the idea is
1045
00:38:05,790 —> 00:38:09,990
something like well you’re set up so
1046
00:38:08,490 —> 00:38:12,598
that you’re automatically interested in
1047
00:38:09,990 —> 00:38:15,270
those things that was fully expand you
1048
00:38:12,599 —> 00:38:17,609
as a well adapted creature well like
1049
00:38:15,270 —> 00:38:20,280
there’s nothing radical about that idea
1050
00:38:17,609 —> 00:38:21,660
how well what else could possibly be the
1051
00:38:20,280 —> 00:38:24,510
case unless there’s something
1052
00:38:21,660 —> 00:38:27,000
fundamentally flawed about you that is
1053
00:38:24,510 —> 00:38:28,170
what the situation would be it’s kind of
1054
00:38:27,000 —> 00:38:30,420
interesting to think about how that
1055
00:38:28,170 —> 00:38:32,460
would be manifest moment to moment but
1056
00:38:30,420 —> 00:38:34,020
the idea is something like well your
1057
00:38:32,460 —> 00:38:36,030
interest is captured by those things
1058
00:38:34,020 —> 00:38:38,460
that lead you down the path of
1059
00:38:36,030 —> 00:38:41,099
development well I better be the case
1060
00:38:38,460 —> 00:38:42,990
okay so that’s fine and so there’s some
1061
00:38:41,099 —> 00:38:44,579
utility and pursuing those things that
1062
00:38:42,990 —> 00:38:47,848
you’re interested in that’s the call to
1063
00:38:44,579 —> 00:38:49,530
adventure let’s say so and the call to
1064
00:38:47,849 —> 00:38:50,880
adventure takes you all sorts of places
1065
00:38:49,530 —> 00:38:52,349
now the problem with the call to
1066
00:38:50,880 —> 00:38:54,750
adventure is like what the hell do you
1067
00:38:52,349 —> 00:38:56,960
know you might be interested in things
1068
00:38:54,750 —> 00:39:00,270
that are kind of warped and bent and
1069
00:38:56,960 —> 00:39:02,880
often it’s the case that when new parts
1070
00:39:00,270 —> 00:39:05,369
of people manifest themselves and grip
1071
00:39:02,880 —> 00:39:08,250
their interest say they do it very badly
1072
00:39:05,369 —> 00:39:09,599
and shoddily and so you stumble around
1073
00:39:08,250 —> 00:39:11,550
like an idiot when you try to do
1074
00:39:09,599 —> 00:39:13,200
something new that’s where the fool is
1075
00:39:11,550 —> 00:39:15,599
the precursor to the savior from the
1076
00:39:13,200 —> 00:39:17,310
from the symbolic perspectives because
1077
00:39:15,599 —> 00:39:18,869
you have to be a fool before you can be
1078
00:39:17,310 —> 00:39:22,290
a master and if you’re not willing to be
1079
00:39:18,869 —> 00:39:25,740
a fool then you can’t be a master so so
1080
00:39:22,290 —> 00:39:27,480
you’re gonna it’s an error error ridden
1081
00:39:25,740 —> 00:39:28,680
process and that’s also laid out in the
1082
00:39:27,480 —> 00:39:30,119
Old Testament stories but
1083
00:39:28,680 —> 00:39:32,759
the first thing that happens to all
1084
00:39:30,119 —> 00:39:34,260
these patriarchal figures when God kicks
1085
00:39:32,760 —> 00:39:37,589
them out of their father’s house when
1086
00:39:34,260 —> 00:39:39,539
they’re like 84 is that they they run
1087
00:39:37,589 —> 00:39:41,038
into all sorts of trouble and some of
1088
00:39:39,539 —> 00:39:42,539
its social and some of its natural and
1089
00:39:41,039 —> 00:39:45,450
some of it’s a consequence of their own
1090
00:39:42,539 —> 00:39:47,819
moral inadequacy so they’re fools and
1091
00:39:45,450 —> 00:39:49,828
but but the thing that’s so interesting
1092
00:39:47,819 —> 00:39:51,270
is that despite the fact that they’re
1093
00:39:49,829 —> 00:39:53,490
fools they’re still supposed to go on
1094
00:39:51,270 —> 00:39:56,069
the adventure and that they’re capable
1095
00:39:53,490 —> 00:39:57,899
of learning enough as a consequence of
1096
00:39:56,069 —> 00:39:59,308
moving forward on the adventure so that
1097
00:39:57,900 —> 00:40:01,859
they straighten themselves out across
1098
00:39:59,309 —> 00:40:03,930
time and so it’s something like this
1099
00:40:01,859 —> 00:40:07,078
this circumambulation that young talked
1100
00:40:03,930 —> 00:40:09,240
about was this continual will return to
1101
00:40:07,079 —> 00:40:11,579
this this continual circling in some
1102
00:40:09,240 —> 00:40:13,288
sense of who you could be you might
1103
00:40:11,579 —> 00:40:14,880
notice for example that there are themes
1104
00:40:13,289 —> 00:40:17,369
in your life you know when you go back
1105
00:40:14,880 —> 00:40:18,869
across your experiences you see you kind
1106
00:40:17,369 —> 00:40:21,480
of have your typical experience that
1107
00:40:18,869 —> 00:40:23,670
sort of repeats itself and there might
1108
00:40:21,480 —> 00:40:26,160
be variation on it like a musical theme
1109
00:40:23,670 —> 00:40:28,170
but it’s it’s like you’re circling
1110
00:40:26,160 —> 00:40:30,058
yourself and getting closer to yourself
1111
00:40:28,170 —> 00:40:32,069
as you move across time
1112
00:40:30,059 —> 00:40:33,420
that’s the circumambulation now you
1113
00:40:32,069 —> 00:40:35,099
remember that for a sec cause we’ll go
1114
00:40:33,420 —> 00:40:37,559
back to it okay so imagine that
1115
00:40:35,099 —> 00:40:40,109
something glimmers before you it’s an an
1116
00:40:37,559 —> 00:40:42,000
interest that’s dawning and you decide
1117
00:40:40,109 —> 00:40:43,319
well first of all you’re paralyzed do
1118
00:40:42,000 —> 00:40:45,059
you think well how do I know if I should
1119
00:40:43,319 —> 00:40:47,609
pursue that it’s probably a stupid idea
1120
00:40:45,059 —> 00:40:49,289
and the proper response to that is
1121
00:40:47,609 —> 00:40:51,660
you’re right it probably is a stupid
1122
00:40:49,289 —> 00:40:55,049
idea because almost all all ideas are
1123
00:40:51,660 —> 00:40:57,240
stupid and so the probability that as
1124
00:40:55,049 —> 00:40:58,859
you move forward on your adventure that
1125
00:40:57,240 —> 00:41:01,799
you’re gonna get it right the first time
1126
00:40:58,859 —> 00:41:03,538
is zero it’s just not gonna happen
1127
00:41:01,799 —> 00:41:05,970
and so then you might think well maybe
1128
00:41:03,539 —> 00:41:08,460
I’ll just wait around until I get the
1129
00:41:05,970 —> 00:41:10,529
right idea and which people do right so
1130
00:41:08,460 —> 00:41:12,930
they’re like 40 year old thirteen year
1131
00:41:10,529 —> 00:41:15,299
olds which is not a good idea so they
1132
00:41:12,930 —> 00:41:17,669
wait around until it’s waiting for godot
1133
00:41:15,299 —> 00:41:19,109
until they finally got it right but the
1134
00:41:17,670 —> 00:41:20,940
problem is you’re too stupid to know
1135
00:41:19,109 —> 00:41:23,308
when you’ve got it right so waiting
1136
00:41:20,940 —> 00:41:25,740
around isn’t gonna help because even if
1137
00:41:23,309 —> 00:41:28,049
it the perfect opportunity manifested
1138
00:41:25,740 —> 00:41:30,240
itself to you in your incomplete form
1139
00:41:28,049 —> 00:41:32,279
the probability that you would recognize
1140
00:41:30,240 —> 00:41:33,990
it as the perfect opportunity is zero
1141
00:41:32,279 —> 00:41:35,970
you might even think it’s the worst
1142
00:41:33,990 —> 00:41:39,479
possible idea that you’ve ever heard of
1143
00:41:35,970 —> 00:41:42,009
anywhere highly likely highly likely so
1144
00:41:39,480 —> 00:41:43,660
so you have there’s niche
1145
00:41:42,010 —> 00:41:46,300
Nietzsche called that a will will to
1146
00:41:43,660 —> 00:41:48,310
stupidity which I really liked so
1147
00:41:46,300 —> 00:41:51,190
because he thought of stupidity as being
1148
00:41:48,310 —> 00:41:53,620
it you know it’s it’s you have to take
1149
00:41:51,190 —> 00:41:56,260
it into account fundamentally and work
1150
00:41:53,620 —> 00:41:59,500
with it and so and so you can take these
1151
00:41:56,260 —> 00:42:01,930
tentative steps on your pathway to
1152
00:41:59,500 —> 00:42:03,820
destiny and you can assume that you’re
1153
00:42:01,930 —> 00:42:05,649
gonna do it badly and that’s really
1154
00:42:03,820 —> 00:42:07,120
useful because you don’t have to beat
1155
00:42:05,650 —> 00:42:09,490
yourself up it’s pretty easy to do it
1156
00:42:07,120 —> 00:42:11,290
badly but the thing is it’s way better
1157
00:42:09,490 —> 00:42:14,200
to do it badly than not to do it at all
1158
00:42:11,290 —> 00:42:16,690
and that’s a continual message that
1159
00:42:14,200 —> 00:42:18,759
echoes through these historical stories
1160
00:42:16,690 —> 00:42:21,250
in Genesis it’s like these are flawed
1161
00:42:18,760 —> 00:42:23,530
people they should have got the hell out
1162
00:42:21,250 —> 00:42:25,810
of their house way before they did and
1163
00:42:23,530 —> 00:42:29,020
they go out and they stumble around in
1164
00:42:25,810 —> 00:42:32,740
tyranny and famine and self betrayal and
1165
00:42:29,020 —> 00:42:34,570
and violence and but it’s a hell of a
1166
00:42:32,740 —> 00:42:37,209
lot better than just rotting away at
1167
00:42:34,570 —> 00:42:39,790
home and that’s the that’s great so
1168
00:42:37,210 —> 00:42:41,740
that’s good and so why is that well okay
1169
00:42:39,790 —> 00:42:43,360
so you you start your path and you think
1170
00:42:41,740 —> 00:42:45,879
that you’re heading you know towards
1171
00:42:43,360 —> 00:42:49,810
your star and so you go in that
1172
00:42:45,880 —> 00:42:51,520
direction and then because you’re here
1173
00:42:49,810 —> 00:42:54,610
the world looks a particular way but
1174
00:42:51,520 —> 00:42:56,410
then when you move here the world looks
1175
00:42:54,610 —> 00:42:58,210
different and you’re different as a
1176
00:42:56,410 —> 00:43:00,549
consequence of having made that voyage
1177
00:42:58,210 —> 00:43:02,380
and so what that means is that now that
1178
00:43:00,550 —> 00:43:04,900
thing that glimmers in front of you is
1179
00:43:02,380 —> 00:43:06,580
going to have shifted its location
1180
00:43:04,900 —> 00:43:08,740
because you weren’t very good at
1181
00:43:06,580 —> 00:43:11,020
specifying it to begin with and now that
1182
00:43:08,740 —> 00:43:13,750
you’re a little sharper and more focused
1183
00:43:11,020 —> 00:43:16,810
than you were it’s it’s going to reveal
1184
00:43:13,750 —> 00:43:20,680
itself with more accuracy to you and so
1185
00:43:16,810 —> 00:43:23,860
then you have to take you know it’s
1186
00:43:20,680 —> 00:43:28,240
almost like 180 degree reversal but it
1187
00:43:23,860 —> 00:43:29,740
isn’t because you know you’ve I mean
1188
00:43:28,240 —> 00:43:33,370
you’ve gone this far and that’s a long
1189
00:43:29,740 —> 00:43:36,310
ways to get that far but that’s a lot
1190
00:43:33,370 —> 00:43:39,339
farther than you would be if you just
1191
00:43:36,310 —> 00:43:41,820
stayed where you were waiting and so it
1192
00:43:39,340 —> 00:43:45,720
doesn’t matter that you overshoot
1193
00:43:41,820 —> 00:43:48,430
continually because as you overshoot
1194
00:43:45,720 —> 00:43:49,870
even if you don’t learn what you should
1195
00:43:48,430 —> 00:43:52,680
have done you’re going to continually
1196
00:43:49,870 —> 00:43:55,359
learn what you shouldn’t keep doing and
1197
00:43:52,680 —> 00:43:56,450
if you learn enough about what you
1198
00:43:55,360 —> 00:43:59,150
shouldn’t keep do
1199
00:43:56,450 —> 00:44:00,828
then that’s tantamount at some point to
1200
00:43:59,150 —> 00:44:04,760
learning at the same time what you
1201
00:44:00,829 —> 00:44:08,329
should be doing so it’s okay so it’s
1202
00:44:04,760 —> 00:44:10,309
like this now what’s cool about it
1203
00:44:08,329 —> 00:44:13,880
though I think is that as you progress
1204
00:44:10,309 —> 00:44:15,890
the degree of overshooting starts to
1205
00:44:13,880 —> 00:44:18,050
decline right and that we know that
1206
00:44:15,890 —> 00:44:20,299
there’s nothing hypothetical about that
1207
00:44:18,050 —> 00:44:22,040
as you learn a new skill like even to
1208
00:44:20,300 —> 00:44:24,020
play it play a song on the piano for
1209
00:44:22,040 —> 00:44:25,550
example you over shoot madly he’s making
1210
00:44:24,020 —> 00:44:32,180
all sorts of mistakes to begin with and
1211
00:44:25,550 —> 00:44:34,760
then the mistakes they disappear there’s
1212
00:44:32,180 —> 00:44:37,669
a great TED talk I think it was about
1213
00:44:34,760 —> 00:44:39,589
this guy set up a really advanced
1214
00:44:37,670 —> 00:44:41,869
computational recording system in his
1215
00:44:39,589 —> 00:44:45,259
home and recorded every single utterance
1216
00:44:41,869 —> 00:44:47,750
his young child made while learning to
1217
00:44:45,260 —> 00:44:50,900
speak and then he put together the
1218
00:44:47,750 —> 00:44:53,150
child’s attempts to say certain phonemes
1219
00:44:50,900 —> 00:44:56,119
and put them in the list and you can
1220
00:44:53,150 —> 00:44:57,859
hear the child deviating madly to begin
1221
00:44:56,119 —> 00:45:00,079
with and then after hundreds and
1222
00:44:57,859 —> 00:45:03,200
hundreds of repetitions just zeroing
1223
00:45:00,079 —> 00:45:04,849
right in on the exact phoneme so you
1224
00:45:03,200 —> 00:45:06,649
know I you might not know this but when
1225
00:45:04,849 —> 00:45:08,180
kids babble because they start babbling
1226
00:45:06,650 —> 00:45:11,359
when they’re quite young they babble
1227
00:45:08,180 —> 00:45:13,190
every human phoneme including all sorts
1228
00:45:11,359 —> 00:45:16,130
of phonemes that adults can’t say and
1229
00:45:13,190 —> 00:45:19,640
then they they die into their language
1230
00:45:16,130 —> 00:45:21,109
so that after they learn say English
1231
00:45:19,640 —> 00:45:22,879
then there’s all sorts of phonemes they
1232
00:45:21,109 —> 00:45:24,470
can no longer hear or pronounce but to
1233
00:45:22,880 —> 00:45:26,119
begin with it’s all there which is
1234
00:45:24,470 —> 00:45:29,480
really quite interesting but so they see
1235
00:45:26,119 —> 00:45:32,180
as they learn a particular language they
1236
00:45:29,480 —> 00:45:34,670
zero in on the proper way to pronounce
1237
00:45:32,180 —> 00:45:36,109
that and their errors minimize and every
1238
00:45:34,670 —> 00:45:37,460
time you learn something that’s how it
1239
00:45:36,109 —> 00:45:39,410
is and that’s really useful to know too
1240
00:45:37,460 —> 00:45:42,140
because it means that it’s okay to
1241
00:45:39,410 —> 00:45:44,960
wander around stupidly before you fix
1242
00:45:42,140 —> 00:45:47,509
your destination now you see that echoed
1243
00:45:44,960 —> 00:45:49,400
in Exodus right because what happens is
1244
00:45:47,510 —> 00:45:51,829
that the Egyptians or the Hebrews
1245
00:45:49,400 —> 00:45:53,930
escaped a tyranny which is kind of
1246
00:45:51,829 —> 00:45:55,970
whatever you do personally and
1247
00:45:53,930 —> 00:45:58,669
psychologically when you escape from
1248
00:45:55,970 —> 00:46:01,640
your previous set of stupidly held and
1249
00:45:58,670 —> 00:46:03,349
ignorant and stubborn axioms it’s like
1250
00:46:01,640 —> 00:46:05,680
away from that tyranny it’s like great i
1251
00:46:03,349 —> 00:46:08,089
freed myself from that well then what
1252
00:46:05,680 —> 00:46:09,319
well you think well now I’m on the way
1253
00:46:08,089 —> 00:46:09,950
it’s no you’re not now you’re in the
1254
00:46:09,319 —> 00:46:12,680
desert
1255
00:46:09,950 —> 00:46:15,410
where you wander around stupidly you
1256
00:46:12,680 —> 00:46:17,930
know and worship the wrong things until
1257
00:46:15,410 —> 00:46:19,578
you finally organize yourself morally
1258
00:46:17,930 —> 00:46:22,098
again and head in the proper direction
1259
00:46:19,579 —> 00:46:25,160
so that’s worth knowing too because you
1260
00:46:22,099 —> 00:46:27,200
think well I got rid of a lot of things
1261
00:46:25,160 —> 00:46:28,730
baggage excess baggage that I didn’t
1262
00:46:27,200 —> 00:46:30,828
need in my life and now everything’s
1263
00:46:28,730 —> 00:46:32,869
okay it’s like no it’s not you’ve got
1264
00:46:30,829 —> 00:46:34,490
rid of a whole set of scaffolds that
1265
00:46:32,869 —> 00:46:36,589
were keeping you in place even though
1266
00:46:34,490 —> 00:46:38,899
they were pathological and now you have
1267
00:46:36,589 —> 00:46:41,720
nothing and nothing actually turns out
1268
00:46:38,900 —> 00:46:43,550
to be better than something pathological
1269
00:46:41,720 —> 00:46:46,129
but you you’re still stuck with the
1270
00:46:43,550 —> 00:46:48,050
problem of nothing and and that’s well
1271
00:46:46,130 —> 00:46:50,089
that’s exactly why Exodus is structured
1272
00:46:48,050 —> 00:46:51,950
the way that it is it’s that you escape
1273
00:46:50,089 —> 00:46:53,540
from eternity it’s hooray we’re no
1274
00:46:51,950 —> 00:46:56,689
longer slaves yeah well now you’re
1275
00:46:53,540 —> 00:46:59,450
nihilistic and lost it’s not necessarily
1276
00:46:56,690 —> 00:47:01,849
an improvement but it is but it is the
1277
00:46:59,450 —> 00:47:04,098
pre let’s see it’s also useful to know
1278
00:47:01,849 —> 00:47:06,230
that because you can also be deluded
1279
00:47:04,099 —> 00:47:07,880
into the idea that imagine that you’re
1280
00:47:06,230 —> 00:47:09,890
trying to become enlightened which might
1281
00:47:07,880 —> 00:47:11,750
mean to turn all those parts of you on
1282
00:47:09,890 —> 00:47:13,879
that could be turned on you think well
1283
00:47:11,750 —> 00:47:15,680
that’s just a linear pathway uphill you
1284
00:47:13,880 —> 00:47:17,900
know it’s just from one success to
1285
00:47:15,680 —> 00:47:19,098
another it’s no it’s not it’s like here
1286
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you are and you’re not doing too badly
1287
00:47:19,099 —> 00:47:23,780
and the first step is a complete bloody
1288
00:47:20,930 —> 00:47:25,759
catastrophe it’s worse and then maybe
1289
00:47:23,780 —> 00:47:28,400
you can pull yourself together and you
1290
00:47:25,760 —> 00:47:30,710
hit a new plateau and then that crumbles
1291
00:47:28,400 —> 00:47:32,660
and shakes and bang it’s worse again and
1292
00:47:30,710 —> 00:47:34,010
so because part of the reason that
1293
00:47:32,660 —> 00:47:37,098
people don’t become enlightened is
1294
00:47:34,010 —> 00:47:39,560
because it’s punctuated by intermittent
1295
00:47:37,099 —> 00:47:41,569
deserts essentially by intermittent
1296
00:47:39,560 —> 00:47:43,040
catastrophes and if you don’t know that
1297
00:47:41,569 —> 00:47:45,619
well then you’re basically screwed
1298
00:47:43,040 —> 00:47:47,270
because you go ahead on your movement
1299
00:47:45,619 —> 00:47:48,920
forward and you collapse and you think
1300
00:47:47,270 —> 00:47:52,579
well that didn’t work I collapsed it’s
1301
00:47:48,920 —> 00:47:54,440
like no that’s par for the course it’s
1302
00:47:52,579 —> 00:47:56,300
not indication that you failed it’s just
1303
00:47:54,440 —> 00:47:58,250
indication that it’s really hard and
1304
00:47:56,300 —> 00:48:00,109
that when you learn something you also
1305
00:47:58,250 —> 00:48:01,790
unlearn something and the thing you
1306
00:48:00,109 —> 00:48:03,619
unlearned is probably useful and
1307
00:48:01,790 —> 00:48:04,790
unlearning it actually is painful
1308
00:48:03,619 —> 00:48:06,800
you know let’s say if you have to get
1309
00:48:04,790 —> 00:48:09,170
out of a bad relationship it’s like not
1310
00:48:06,800 —> 00:48:10,550
every not any really there isn’t any
1311
00:48:09,170 —> 00:48:13,790
relationship that’s a hundred percent
1312
00:48:10,550 —> 00:48:15,619
bad and so when you jump out of it well
1313
00:48:13,790 —> 00:48:17,420
maybe you’re in better shape but you’re
1314
00:48:15,619 —> 00:48:18,770
still lonesome and disoriented you don’t
1315
00:48:17,420 —> 00:48:20,000
know what your past was and you don’t
1316
00:48:18,770 —> 00:48:22,270
know what your present is and you don’t
1317
00:48:20,000 —> 00:48:24,110
know what your future is it’s that’s not
1318
00:48:22,270 —> 00:48:25,850
that’s why people
1319
00:48:24,110 —> 00:48:27,470
a with the devil they know instead of
1320
00:48:25,850 —> 00:48:33,170
you know looking for the devil they
1321
00:48:27,470 —> 00:48:35,330
don’t know so so anyways the fact that
1322
00:48:33,170 —> 00:48:38,150
you’re full of faults doesn’t mean you
1323
00:48:35,330 —> 00:48:40,759
have to stop and thank God for that
1324
00:48:38,150 —> 00:48:42,290
that’s a really useful thing and the
1325
00:48:40,760 —> 00:48:45,470
fact that you’re full of faults doesn’t
1326
00:48:42,290 —> 00:48:47,570
mean that you can’t learn and so you can
1327
00:48:45,470 —> 00:48:49,250
pause it an ideal and you’re gonna be
1328
00:48:47,570 —> 00:48:50,780
wrong about it but it doesn’t matter
1329
00:48:49,250 —> 00:48:52,760
because what you’re right about is
1330
00:48:50,780 —> 00:48:57,680
positing the ideal moving towards it if
1331
00:48:52,760 —> 00:48:59,870
the actual ideal isn’t conceptualize
1332
00:48:57,680 —> 00:49:01,129
perfectly well first surprise surprise
1333
00:48:59,870 —> 00:49:04,130
cuz like what are you going to do that’s
1334
00:49:01,130 —> 00:49:04,670
perfect so it doesn’t matter that it’s
1335
00:49:04,130 —> 00:49:06,470
imperfect
1336
00:49:04,670 —> 00:49:08,270
imperfect it just matters that you do it
1337
00:49:06,470 —> 00:49:10,250
and that you move forward so that’s
1338
00:49:08,270 —> 00:49:11,570
really that’s really positive news as
1339
00:49:10,250 —> 00:49:13,340
far as I’m concerned because you can
1340
00:49:11,570 —> 00:49:15,740
actually do that right you can do it
1341
00:49:13,340 —> 00:49:19,520
badly anyone can do that so that’s
1342
00:49:15,740 —> 00:49:20,689
that’s useful okay so like if you’re an
1343
00:49:19,520 —> 00:49:23,960
efficient person you would have just
1344
00:49:20,690 —> 00:49:26,180
done that but you’re not but who cares
1345
00:49:23,960 —> 00:49:28,700
you know you still end up in the in the
1346
00:49:26,180 —> 00:49:30,589
same place and maybe the trip is even
1347
00:49:28,700 —> 00:49:33,220
more interesting who knows probably —
1348
00:49:30,590 —> 00:49:33,220
interesting
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00:49:40,680 —> 00:49:42,740
you